My 21 Lessons in 21 Years.

Riddle time.

For there to be sound one must hear it. A tree fell and no one heard it. Did the tree make a sound?

Think about that and tell me your thoughts on the comment section.

In the meantime let’s talk about My 21 lessons in 21 years.

Ageing is natural and a reminder that we have finite time on Earth. That is why it’s important that we embrace each year with love and hope. We have one life to live and that life has to be accounted for by us.

I used to think that when I get to 21, I will have figured things out, but the truth is, there is no figuring things out, you work with what you have to get what you want.

Does it get easier? The question I always ask.

The answer is No. You become better equipped to handle the situation. Each decision carries a consequence of its own magnitude.

Through the years I picked up some lessons that I would like to share with you, they are:

1.Be yourself

You need to embrace yourself, your quirks, and anything that makes you stand out.

We are in the season of Game of Thrones and I have been dying to share this. In the very first season Tyrion Lannister meets Jon Snow he calls him a ‘bastard’ which he takes offensively. Later on he offers him advice and tells him,

“Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armour, and it can never be used to hurt you.”

For you to understand others, you need to first understand yourself. Be your authentic self and never apologise for it. You are the only one who is good at being you.

 Be the writer of your own story. One bad chapter does not define the whole book.

Your story is what you have, what you will always have. It is something to own“.

Michelle Obama

Sometimes this will mean you need to be selfish. You need to be selfish with who you give your time to, peace of mind and space in your life. You should always come first in your list. When a plane incurs damages whilst in the air, the first thing you are told is to put on your oxygen mask first before anybody else’s, because how do you save someone else while you cannot even save yourself.

“Always be true to yourself”.

Velda Kiara

2. Don’t apologize for your achievements.

We are always told that you should not flaunt your achievements because apparently you are ‘bragging’. I am here to tell you that if it’s a fact it’s not bragging.  You should be proud of yourself, you worked your ass off to get it.

It does not have to be something grandeur, it can be simple like completing that essay, applying for that position or even getting out of bed the next morning after having a rough day.

A tip: always celebrate all your achievements no matter how small, every little thing is a building block for something greater.

3. Have Faith

You need to believe in God (Supreme Being) and yourself. There are going to be tough days where you will doubt yourself and you need to have something to give you hope and strength to keep on going. When push comes to shove remember that God did not bring you this far to leave you now. Pull up your sleeves and handle it like the boss I know you are.

4. Be patient.

I cannot stress this enough but you need to be very patient in all your endeavours.

Patience is an art that we need to learn every day.

All good things always take time. Progress is a journey not a destination. Stop treating the waiting time like a punishment and use that period as a learning period.

 Beyoncé prepared for eight months for a two hour performance for Coachella, not to mention that it was an epic performance. Think about that when you do something and expect to see results  immediately.

5.Have a plan.

You need to have a road map. We all have them but the problem is we state the goals vaguely. We do not break down the goals to little tasks that will help us monitor our performance.

Road maps will work half of the time. Half, because there will always be detours, and as much as we dislike them they will lead you where you need to be faster than your plan could. Additionally, having a long term goal will help you deal when you need something good going on for you.

Another thing about this is we need to be consistent. Consistency is not easy, doing something over and over again is not fun. Spice things up by doing things differently to avoid boredom.

6. Jump.

Sometimes you are going to have to jump. Jumping sounds fun and gutsy until you understand the stakes. Traders have a common saying that the higher the risk the higher the benefits, which is true and good when the outcome is positive.

Jumping is like tossing a coin and hoping the side you chose is the right one.

Before you jump, you need to understand once you do, there is no going back and after you jump you need to be okay with the outcome. Once you truly understand and accept those facts then, even after you take the jump you will not have any regrets.

7. Appreciate people.

You need to appreciate and thank people that do things for you. Acknowledge and thank every person that offers a helping hand. You need to also appreciate everybody you meet. Everyone is a genius in something and you can always learn a thing or two from them. Learn to network with people, your network is your net worth. Every person is an opportunity, you just need to play your cards right.

8.Pursue your passion.

Go for things that set your soul on fire. Love what you do and do what you love every time. Your passion may not necessarily be something you are good at and that’s alright because you are going to be motivated to do the work. As long as you are passionate you will be able to weather the storm because of the fire within.

9.Own your mistakes and failures.

Always take responsibility of your mistakes and failures. Do not run from them, face them head on. The only way to learn from your mistakes is by accepting and taking measures to make it better.
At some point you will fail. Fail seven times get up eight, the most important thing is never give up. Keep on moving by all means.

10.Stay Humble.

This encompasses staying teachable, having an open mind and learning every time. Staying teachable means accepting that you do not know everything and having an open mind.

“A mind is like a parachute . It does not work if it is not open”.

Frank Zappa

11.You are enough.

Stop being stupid and make choices that actually scare you, in a good way. That opportunity you want to give up because you think you cannot handle it, I need you to take it. If you think you cannot handle it then grow into someone who can. Who says you cannot learn on the job. I say this again, you are enough, I need you to believe in yourself. You are capable.

12.Listen and read instructions carefully.

Learn to listen. Before you start an argument hear the other person and understand their point of view. The world would be so much better if we all took time to listen before we speak. Always listen and read instructions to avoid failing before you start.

13.Read widely.

You better get comfortable with reading because it never ends. Read all types of things, books, articles and journals. After reading learn to customize what you learn with your situation.

14.Learn to walk away.

I was never one known to walk away from an argument because I loved being vocal about my thoughts no matter what. I later realized that some arguments did not deserve my time.
Silence is also a response. A hard one because it takes strength and perseverance to walk away from an argument. It feels like you are literally choking on your words. Learn to walk away from situations that threaten your state of mind.

“Never wrestle with a pig, you both get dirty but the pig enjoys it”.

Bernard Shaw

15.Do not limit yourself.

Under no circumstances are you allowed to limit yourself. Take risks that are worth your time. Have that conversation with your boss of getting a raise or work on that new idea you have.

16.Learn to say no.

Your intuition is never wrong. If you sense something is not right with a particular deal, don’t take it because best believe it’s going to take a huge bite on your back.
Before you say yes to something, think about it, do your research and if it’s legit say the three words, failure to that drop it like it’s hot and move on.

17.Give back.

Always give back to your community. This may be in terms of service or skills. Share what you learn with people and mentor those who want to be where you are.

“If you are lucky enough to have done well for yourself, it is your responsibility to send the elevator back down for others”.

Kevin Spacey.

18.Have keepers.

Get yourself some loyal friends or as I call them, keepers, who will be your support system.
No man is an island we all need each other at some point. Your keepers should be your cheering squad and people who tell you the truth no matter what because they truly care about you. They should motivate you and challenge you to be better. The first people you call to celebrate your achievements. If you get them, keep them close to your heart, they are rare gems.

19.Be accountable.

This means holding yourself responsible for everything you do.

20.Do not criticize.

When you meet someone the first thing you see is their physical features. You do not see what they are struggling with. Make it your responsibility not to criticize.

“Do not criticize people, they are what we would be in their circumstance”.

Abraham Lincoln.

21.Have fun.

The most important thing is to have fun in whatever you do. Make memories with the people you love.

I pray that after you live your best life and they take you six feet under they will say that you lived your best life, that through the hearts you touched you left a legacy and you left the world a little better than you found it.

Till we meet again.

Remember there is no us without you.

veldakarimi.wordpress.com, mantra

Cheers.

The Painting

I learnt at an early stage that anything that comes after the word but is vile. No worries though I got you covered not all buts are negative. A few days back I had the pleasure of getting to listen to a story about a peace painting contest I don’t quite remember where, but the important thing was that I was attentive. I am one of those people who like paying attention to details.



I would love to paint but with a wild imagination and the inability to hold paint brushes equates to no painting. During the contest there were two particular paintings that stole the show. The first painting was about a calm lake .The lake was an ideal mirror for peaceful towering mountains which were all around it. The sky was blue with fleecy white clouds. This was the flat out definition of a perfect picture of peace. The second picture had mountains too but they were precipitous and undraped. The sky above was furious from which rain poured and in which lightning played. Down the side of the mountain tumbled a foaming waterfall. It was in no way peaceful.   Behind the waterfall a tiny bush growing in a crack in the rock, a mother bird had built her nest. In the middle of the rush of angry water sat the mother bird on her nest a picture perfect peace. In my mind that picture was phenomenal. I believe if I saw it in person I would probably drool. At the bottom of the paint was a statement written peace in the midst of the storm, those words just got to me at a whole new level, seriously I am gushing over this so bad. At this point we know the second picture took the award home.
Let’s take a deep dive in my imagination for a bit, in my head I was in a spectacular art gallery. Filled with all sorts of painting. People in alluring gowns and tuxedos or suits standing on various corners of the building admiring the art and then there is me, just standing in awe of the second painting. Staring because the painting took my breath away and wishing that I could in some way own it .I know right, but a girl is allowed to dream until she puts it in action.
I could think of a bazillion reasons the second painting won but the one that stands out is its diversity. It’s known that you do not know how strong you are until being strong is the only option you have. Don’t get me wrong the first one also displayed peace but that’s the ordinary kind of peace where there are no challenges and all you have to do is lay back and chill out.
In our lives we think we find peace when everything is going our way, no potholes or bumps just clear paths. And though that’s also a definition of peace, true peace is when everything around you is being torn apart but you choose to remain calm and retain your peace of mind regardless of the situation at hand .It’s so easy to feel good when everything you do is progressing but when you encounter an adversity and you still are peaceful, that there is what I call self-control.
Don’t let things that are out of your control disrupt your peace, I mean we have God on our side He is always listening, God in this case is whoever your supreme being is.
In the book of Philippians 4:5-6 “Let your gentleness be evident to all, the Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving present your requests to God.”
There is a prayer that I love dearly but I cited in my previous posts It’s worth going back. Don’t forget to check it out. I am sure you will love it. I have stated it towards the end of the article.
I hope you are living your best, conquering your fears, taking risks like never before and aiming for the sky. You can do this I believe in you.
I wish you all the best in all of your endeavours.
As I always say, there is no us without you.

2018

2018, well this was one epic ride.

This was the year I gave to God, He is my supreme being, and I told Him that we were going to work on our relationship. Trust me I know this sounds weird but it gave me a certain balance. My perception of certain things changed, I became more loving, compassionate and understanding. What am trying to say is that I started growing. In order to achieve this you need to make it intentional and I did. It paid off. And no matter what happened we talked about it. Anyway this was just one of the major highlights of my year.

2018 has been one rollercoaster and I am saying this for all of us. My year was everything that can happen to a young adult and then some. I have loved and lost. I have felt pain from losing a loved one unexpectedly to losing stuff. Yes I have bought everything and everything has perished more times than you can imagine. I thank God for everything because I could replace the stuff, but I could not replace him, and that’s how life should be, it has to end at some point. We are just pilgrims on a journey. I have had times where my parents had to hold my hand and teach me how to walk on my feet, not literally but hypothetically. I really hope that God keeps all of our parents or guardians some of us owe them too much.

I have cried so many times I remember not being able to breath and I had to get away for a while so I could heal from the scars and bruises I did not even know I had. I have become strangers with people who I thought would be in my life for a lifetime but that’s how things work. We grow and sometimes outgrow some friends, some situations at some point but it’s all worth it in the long run.

I have felt joy and happiness in its uttermost. I have met amazing people, smashed my goals. I have joined societies and movements. I have celebrated my friends’ achievements, my parents, my family’s growth and my own achievements. I have attended events and felt nature at its finest. I have made friends who I hope are going to last a lifetime and my reading habit is just off the charts. What started out as a disguise to get out of my own head and thoughts is a part of who I am. I wonder how I survived all that long without a good read.

We have all experienced the bumps and bruises of this year and guess what? We are still here still going on stronger than ever .I mean this calls for a celebration. All the experience we have and intelligence we have acquired will surely pay off in its own time. I tend to believe that we deserve the best that this world can offer but you have to do the work for it.

Matthew 7:7-8 “Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you: For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.” In your 2019 resolutions remember to let your supreme being, to me that is God, be your first priority and watch things work out exactly in your favor and how He wants them to play out. Keep running to Him and going for what you want .Do things that are right by Him and by you.

Thank you for your support in 2018.We appreciate you and celebrate you. You are important to us.

Stay safe and take care.

Happy New Year in advance.

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cheers to many more years.

It’s worth going back

I know right, what is going back?

In our context we are going to talk about remembering that is going back. And when we do this I want us to be all in, no excuses, no omissions I want us to talk about all of it.

You remember that time when all you felt in your heart was unexplained joy? Because I know I do. Remember the times you walked through the streets and hallways only having happy thoughts. Now go back a little more, to the time that you were in kindergarten; where your only worry was how to shade colors around a certain circle, being able to get your food in your mouth without spilling everywhere especially while having fries and we all know how messy the ketchup can be, making friends without judging where they came from, playing and most of all the naps that you did not like by then. Now I want you to fast forward to where you are now; maybe you finally got the job you wanted, you finally were given an opportunity to show case your portfolio in a certain interview, maybe it was getting more clients in that self-employed job you have or it’s that tender you were anxiously waiting for and you finally got it, maybe that semester was so overwhelming that you barely made through but you did it with a bang, maybe you finally graduated and got your life going on so well. I could go through things that bring out the smile on your face on and on and we would not hear the last of it.

Life is a roller-coaster sometimes you are up shinning so bright, the next thing you know, you are so low you do not even know how you got there and that’s what makes life beautiful, thrilling and worth living each and every day.

Right now I am going to take you back to places where you never like going, yes right now it’s about removing all the skeletons that have been hiding in your closet for years. That heart break you never managed to get over, that person who really gave you crap for so long and you wish them nothing but pain in their lives. I want you to start the process of forgiveness. That person who in a way violated you in ways you cannot even fathom I need you to forgive them sweetie, and remember it’s not for them because they do not deserve it, it’s for you, you cannot continue holding on to rotten tomatoes I want you to get rid of them today, it’s not easy but we both knew this day would come. I want you to remember that loss of someone you love and I want you to know they are in a better place, a place that is filled with happiness and it’s peaceful and I want you to let go, letting go does not mean to forget it means that you get to appreciate the lives they lived and appreciate all the moments you had no matter how brief, because you choose to remember them as the great people they were and not by their death .I want you to remember how lost you were at some point in your life and all the pain and resentment you felt and I want you to finally be free of it, no holding on to rotten Tomatoes .I want you to remember that someone you trusted and the way they betrayed you and I want you to forgive, no matter the situation this day we are choosing to forgive.

Remember it’s not for them it’s mainly for you. I want you to embrace yourself and teach yourself that you are worth so much more and you would rather forgive than keep resentment that poisons your heart instead of healing it with forgiveness.

I know we all struggle with this, believe me I know, I really find it hard to forgive someone but the moment you learn it’s for you ,everything changes ,just choose to do what’s best for you and that’s forgiving.

And now since you have chosen to forgive I want to tell you how proud I am of you for choosing you, you matter, each and every part of you matters.

Now I want you to light a candle, take a deep breath and think about everything you want to let go and blow it off. This is very therapeutic so I encourage you to actually do it. And now light it again and pat yourself in the back because as that little light shines bright is as much as you have started to shine and soon you are going to shine as bright as the great stream of stars which flows through heaven because you will never carry resentment ever again, we won’t get bitten twice.

You are not alone, always remember that, I got you. Anytime you feel like you are being pushed over the edge hold on, you will get through this you always do.

Most of all I want you to remember you have a High Power watching over you. When I say a Higher Power I mean the Supreme Being you have in your life .In my life I call Him God, Feel free to use whatever suits you. Trusting God does not mean that you will only get free rides, it means you will have bumps and everything that challenges you but trusting Him means you are freeing yourself from the overwhelming hold of your troubles .More so trusting Him assures you that they will be a good outcome and it allows you to have a clear mind, to think about how to handle the situation. Trusting Him does not mean you sit back and enjoy it means you take charge and maybe you will hear Him leading you on the way He wants you to follow. Everything He does, He does it for your good. He is always there when you need Him.

I want us to say this Serenity prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr, I know you have said it a couple of times, well at least a quarter of it but today I want us to do it together and we are going to do the whole of it not until where it suits us .

“God grant us the serenity to accept the things that we cannot change, the courage to change the things we can and the wisdom to know the difference .Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; Accepting hardship as the pathway to peace, Taking as He did this sinful world as it is, not as we would have it; Trusting that He will make all things right if we surrender to His will. That we may be reasonably happy in this life, and supremely happy with Him forever in the next.”

To sum it up, you are better than you were a year ago and years to come you will be better than who you are now. It won’t just happen you have to choose to be better each and every day.

Each and everything had to happen just as it did so that each one of us can be who we are.

The remarkable creation we are.

 

 

 

 

 

An Intellectual

In my social media handles, I expressed the need of educating people of what being an intellectual means since it was proving to be a basic need. A promise is a debt which I am currently paying.

Enjoy.

Some days ago we had a family issue that involved an argument between someone who had a doctorate degree and the other had a degree. I am not going to expound on the issue because it’s not my story to tell. But what I learnt from the heated argument was that having a doctorate degree does not make you an intellectual. Many are the times that we look at people who have climbed the doctoral process and emerged successful yet when they talk what comes from their mouth is pride, self-centered crap and whatever they think they have. We expect a lot more from someone who had the time and patience to go through the doctoral process. I mean it involves a lot of research and accumulating a tremendous amount of information new and old. What I am saying is that, having attained some level of education does not guarantee that you are an intellectual or having a wealth of information. And if you still have the same idea I urge you to stop thinking so primitively.

It’s so sad that there are doctorates who are not intellectuals, just like there are leaders who are not about leading but personal vendettas, just like there are gospel singers who are not about singing for God.

The meaning of being an intellectual according to Wikipedia-thank God for Wikipedia-is a person who engages in critical thinking, research and reflection about society and proposes solutions for its normative problems.

I am going to simplify this for you in a minute.

According to Doctor Ibram Kendi, to be specific his commencement speech in the University of Florida, he defines an intellectual person as someone; with a tremendous desire to know, has a capacity to change their mind on matters to self-reflect, self-critique and are governed by a special interest. That special interest is rarely self-serving. That special interest is of finding and revealing the truth.

That is as simple as it gets.

Intellectuals are nomadic people, constantly changing their conceptual location, constantly in search of a better conceptual space. They are constantly working out their minds, regularly breaking down old ideas to allow new and better ideas. Anthony J. D’Angelo said “Develop a passion for learning, if you do, you will never cease to grow.”

No matter how many titles you add to your name as long as you are not someone; with a tremendous desire to know, have a capacity to change your mind on matters to self-reflect, self-critique and are governed by a special interest of finding and revealing the truth then you are not an intellectual.

Let’s refrain from being anti-intellectuals. After all in the class of intellectuals you do not necessarily need education. The class is very accommodating. They do not care about the status quo, your background, your religion or your race, you are all celebrated.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow ,learn as if you were to live forever”-Mahatma Gandhi.

A penny for your thoughts .

Stand out

In a world filled with everything wrong and disgrace. Moral standards declining as we make advancements in technology, how ironic. How everything taught to us that was wrong becoming right because everyone is doing it. How dignity has become something to be disgraced and whoever chooses to do right is condemned by the majority who see all wrong things to be right.

Not to mention our social media crisis. Where everybody strives to be the first in whatever they do, not only that but in conveying information. Whether it’s wrong or right, not caring if it hurts someone else, as long as you have put it out there, then that’s all that matters.

In a place where there is unfettered access to information and people are being mediocre and it’s acceptable.

Where decent clothing has become a rare case scenario. Where we do not care where we put our trash because “there are people for that” concept. Where being courteous is something unheard of. Where people do not really consider reading books, or walking to parks to just meditate or call a friend and talk about what’s really going on in their lives in person instead of talking behind screens.

A place where people are rushed by other people’s timelines and measured by other people’s measuring tapes. Doing what they do not love or desire. Being respected and honoured because of net worth despite being a non-contributor to society’s growth. Chasing frivolous pursuits instead of chasing things that make a difference. You owe it to yourself and to your creator to fulfil as Oprah puts it “the highest, truest expression of yourself as a human being. The promise that the creator dreamed the cells that make up you.”

You owe yourself happiness and doing the right thing regardless of who is watching or the situation at hand. You owe service to others because we leave a legacy by serving the needs of others without the expectation of receiving anything in return. As Martin Luther King Jr. said, “not everyone can be famous but everyone can be great, because greatness is determined by service, you only need a heart full of grace and a soul generated by love.”

Tell the truth, do good deeds, make yourself and everybody you love proud. Do things that build the society at large. Offer help to those in need. Be there to support your friends and family and most of all take care of each other. Be careful not to overstep. “Be wise as serpents and harmless as doves”, Matthew 10:16b.And remember, “All who sin apart from the law will also perish apart from the law. And all who sin under the law will be judged by the law. For it is not those who are righteous in God’s sight, but it is those who obey the law will be declared righteous. ”Romans 2:12-13.

Be the change you want to see in others. It all starts with the person staring right back at you on the mirror.

Growth

Sometimes I think we ask God for the right things at the wrong time.For example when you ask Him for growth and He starts revealing and removing people from your life.Then after sometime you are like “hold up,why did he or she or they have to go,I don’t like this”And my answer to you is,He is removing  because in some way those certain people would hinder your growth.Maybe they were weighing you down and you did not know it.Maybe you offered more than you needed to and that would wear you out sooner or later.Also it might be that you were deflecting them from what they would become.

Occasionally you have to teach yourself to let go.It’s okay to lose people and its okay to welcome others into your life.You have to cut ties and burn the bridges to ashes so that you do not make mistakes.What is gone is gone ,build something greater and better.After All,we all want to be better than who we were the previous day.And when you start moving all the needed people in your life,and trying to get crazy thoughts out of your mind,I hope that you maintain your peace of mind.As you grow emotionally,physically and spiritually,and you meet people at different levels,I pray that you maintain your character and dignity.

 

Review

My current read was How To win Friends and Influence People By Dale Carnegie.

I chose that book by then because I  was really failing when it came to handling people.I would say things that were not really appropriate and then I would try to fix it but it always ended the wrong way.I know it really sucked!!!!

This book has amazing people skills.It gives you a wide scope of what really goes on a conversation,what the other person thinks and how to not wreak the conversation when you are treading on dangerous topics.

If you want to:

-become a better speaker,a more entertaining conversationalist

-handle complaints,avoid arguments ,keep your human contacts smooth and pleasant ,

then I really recommend this book for you.

Part one:Fundamental Techniques In Handling People

The first chapter is based on three simple principles:

1.Do not criticize,condemn or complain.

He explains that”Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself.It is also dangerous because it wounds a person’s precious pride ,hurts his sense of importance and arouses resentment.”He also quotes other people’s words like “Don’t criticize them;they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.”- Abraham Lincoln  “I will speak ill of no man,he said, and speak all the good I know of everybody .”-Benjamin Franklin.

Any fool can criticize,condemn and complain-and most fools do but it takes character and self control to be understanding and forgiving.

Instead of condemning people,Let’s try to understand them. Let’s try to figure out why they do what they do.That’s more profitable and intriguing than criticism and it breeds sympathy,tolerance and kindness.”To know is to forgive all”

“God himself,sir,does not judge man until the end of his days.”

“Why should You and I ?”-Dr.Johnson

2.Give Honest and Sincere Appreciation.

He explains that”There is only one way under high heaven to get anybody to do anything ,and that is by making the other person want to do it.”

“Everything that You and I do springs from two motives:the sex urge and the desire to be great.

William James said”The deepest principle in human nature in human nature is the craving to be appreciated.” keyword “craving.”

“The difference between appreciation and flattery is simple.One is sincere and the other is insincere,one comes from the heart ,the other comes form the teeth out.One is unselfish the other is selfish.One is universally admired the other universally condemned.”

“Use what language you will,you can never say anything but what you are.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson.

“Be hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise,”and people will cherish your words and treasure them and repeat them over a lifetime-repeat them years after you have forgotten them.”

3.Arouse in the other person an  eager want.

“The only way to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.”

“Action springs out of what we fundamentally desire…and the best piece of advice which can be given to would be persuaders ,whether in business,in home,in school,in politics,is:First arouse in the other person an eager want.He who does this has the whole world with him.He who cannot walks a lonely way.”-Harry A,over-street Influencing Human Behavior.

“If there is any one secret of success it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.”-Henry Ford.

“People who can put themselves in the place of other people who can understand the workings of their minds,need never worry about what the future has in store for them.”Owen D.Young

 

That is just a scope of what the book is about.

If you have any book suggestions that you would like me to give a review of feel free to drop it on the comments section.

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Till next time. 🙂

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Not Too Much

They tell you trust but not too much

They tell you feel but not too much

They tell you love but not too much

The problem is we all end up feeling too much and we get hurt so bad

And we have to build ourselves up all over again and start the procedure all over again and again

For some of us who get hurt we start being insecure and begin to have trust issues with everyone

It becomes a problem because we are all too scared of being hurt the same way by a different person

But time heals all wounds

It does not matter how deep but one time it’s going to go away for good

And at that time you are going to be at the best point you can ever be.